As a recovery coach and a person in long term recovery, I use “narrowly recovery focused” a lot when working and speaking with families and addicts. I firmly believe that if you become focused solely on recovery, putting recovery first in every aspect of your life, that great things happen. Narrowing your focused on recovery allows you to learn and implement spiritual principles that long term recovery requires. These principles should be engrained in every aspect of your life. You do that, I have never seen anyone’s life get worse.
Addiction strips you of self-worth and clouds your soul. Addiction mandates that you play different “characters” and the authentic self gets lost. You believe that you need drugs and alcohol to live. You are not alone. You are worthy of love, help, hope, and happiness.
Recovery allows you to get connected to your authentic self. It is not an overnight, painless process but is worth the journey. While getting connected to your authentic self you’ll need to get vulnerable and connected with others that have walked the same journey that you are on. “Me too” are the two most powerful words in recovery. Those two words smash the belief that you are unique. Once you realize that you are not unique, addiction slowly loses power.
When you become recovery-focused and get connected to others (including yourself) change happens. You start rewriting your story. Pain, guilt, shame, fear gets turned into strength. This is a journey you cannot do by yourself. Life will take on new meaning. You’ll live within your purpose. Drugs and alcohol were only crutches due to the belief that you cannot walk through life without it.
Authenticity. Vulnerability. Connection. Three pillars that I have built my recovery on. Being a life coach, I work with clients on these same principles whether they are struggling with addiction or mental health issues. I am confident in the person that I am, and do not need to be anyone other than myself.